Smart Coaching and Training | Business Support, Consultancy, Mentoring

Transforming Businesses and Lives | Coaching, Mentoring & Training for Excellence

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn
  • Twitter

 

+44 (0)7788425688 | [email protected]

 

  • Home
    • Coaching News
    • Our Clients
    • About Us
      • Our Team
      • Our Scope
      • Our Approach
      • Social Value
  • People
  • Diversity
    • Artificial Intelligence, Interculturality and Diversity
    • Diversity: Interculturality
    • Diversity: Neuro Diversity
    • Diversity: Cognitive Diversity
      • Profile
    • Diversity: Gender and Sexual Diversity
    • Diversity: Colonialism, Class, Nationality, Ethnicity, Race and Beliefs
    • Diversity: Generational Diversity
    • Diversity: Intersectionality
      • Diversity
  • We Offer
    • Coach
    • Speak
    • Train
    • Consult
    • Wellness at Work
    • Psycho-social Adult Development
  • Profile
    • Behavioural Preference Profiling with C-me
    • Career Preference Profiling with Benchmark
    • C-me comparison to other profiling tools
  • Speak
  • Coach
  • Train
    • Signature Corprate Training, Longer courses and Retreats
    • Workshops and Short Courses
    • On-Line Courses
  • Consult
  • Español
  • Contact

03/10/2020 By Eric Moore

The Age of Anxiety

The Age of Anxiety

“West Side Story” composer Leonard Bernstein’s Symphony No. 2 The Age of Anxiety was composed from 1948 to 1949 in the US and Israel. It is titled after W. H. Auden’s poem of the same name. Was 1949 the Age of Anxiety or is it now? Most of us have some form of anxiety in our lives and with the continued events of 2020 it is becoming more prevalent.

Our trainer Eric Moore. Ask about individual and group wellness at work coaching

Coping Mechanisms

To combat anxiety people will employ different coping mechanisms to help deal with their anxiety. These may include, exercise, going for a walk, listening to music, or some other form of distraction, though when it strikes these often fail, because the problem is neurological, so therefore to successfully cure anxiety the changes need to take place at the neurological level. Another mechanism many use is to try and avoid the situations that cause them to feel anxious or panic. This though prevents, change and growth. Another thing I often come across is hearing clients say “It happens to me – I don’t make it happen”. This mindset can unfortunately prevent the person from taking ownership of the problem.

Causes of Anxiety

Anxiety is caused by an over arousal of the autonomic nervous system, so someone will often get anxious before they even know it, and by the time this happens it’s too late. So they say “it’s not my fault since it happens automatically”. However they created it due to reacting to an external stimulus such as crowded spaces, social gatherings, giving a presentation. This can then generalise, so even the thought of it becomes enough to create the anxious state.

Holbourne Museum Bath UK by David Rigby

Fight or Flight

This triggers the fight or flight response in part of the brain called the amygdala and can cause a myriad of issues both psychologically and physiologically. Dry mouth, sweaty palms, palpitations, racing heartbeat and thoughts, tightness or pain in the chest to name a few.

Internal Dialogue

Taking responsibility and owning it is one of the steps to overcoming this debilitating issue towards recovery. Anxiety and panic is often a function of the internal dialogue and the images one creates in the mind. Intervening by changing the images and speed of what is said internally are key to becoming anxiety free. Now, depending on the type of anxiety there will be more activity in one hemisphere of the brain and another tool for change is to engage both hemispheres whilst thinking of the anxious state. If you are curious about to take back control and become anxiety free then join our workshop here on send us a message here.

Written by Eric Moore , Smart Coaching & Training Ltd.

Filed Under: C-me Colour Profiling, Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Mentoring, Mindset, News, Personal Development, Wellbeing Tagged With: coaching, profiling, white lies matter, white lives matter

22/07/2020 By David Rigby

White Lies Matter

White Lies Matter

“You might think that, I couldn’t possibly comment!”   was the signature phrase of the scheming politician Francis Urquhart, played by Ian Richardson in the 1990 television thriller House of Cards. It’s the great coaching get-out, but what if you did comment and were sparing with the truth?

“Does my bum look big in this?”  What can you say? If you don’t say ‘no’ you are in trouble. My father lost a life long friend by responding honestly to the question “What do you think of these paintings I have made?”.

White lies, being economical with the truth a.k.a. lies by omission : Do they have a place in the coaching world? Do they have a place in your everyday world?

it’s ‘the way you tell them’

Ultimately, it’s ‘the way you tell them’ which makes the difference between retaining and losing a client or a friend.  How honest an answer will you give, will depend on

  • Who you are;
  • Who they are;
  • The nature of your relationship.

But white lies and omissions are only for the lazy.

Sugar coated diplomacy

For those who are familiar with Behavioural Preference Profiling, which is about communication, the blunt logic of the ‘Reds’ and ‘Blues’ can be an affront when talking to the more emotional ‘greens’ and ‘yellows’ who prefer the truth sugar coated with opinion and diplomacy.

Palau Altea by David Rigby

In the world of politics telling blatant lies seems to be the way forward, and of course the history of the winners, as taught in schools, and portrayed by the tabloids, seems not to matter either.

My father used to say ‘Give me the facts’ – and was not interested in opinions. Even if they confirmed his own. He read a left wing broadsheet so there was some hope, but never got the balance, and believed what he read was ‘the truth’ because it was ‘in print’.

In the office, it is well recognised that having the Psychological Safety to be able to speak up and speak out leads to better results but in most organisations cannot be done. To be well at work you need also to be able to both tell the truth and receive the truth. But you must remember

  • Your truth, is probably your opinion often based on little or biased knowledge of the facts;
  • Their truth, is probably their opinion often based on little or biased knowledge of the facts.

Learning to debate, without falling out, is a life skill, as is being able to recognise that others may be just as passionate as you about their incorrect views.  Learn to live with it. I recently asked a group to debate with me issues I was currently having about recent politics. It helped me enormously. Being able to discuss without fear of retribution is crucial to a healthy life. We can facilitate groups or just coach you honestly to help you resolve your issues.  Be brave. – white lies do matter.

Written by David Rigby, Smart Coaching & Training Ltd.

Filed Under: C-me Colour Profiling, Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Mentoring, Mindset, News, Personal Development, Wellbeing Tagged With: coaching, profiling, white lies matter, white lives matter

11/04/2020 By Halina Jaroszewska

Becoming the leader you want to be

Becoming the leader you want to be

Expectations of leaders and aspiring leaders in business today have never been higher and the demands on them never been greater.

What are these expectations and demands and how can senior executives get the support they need?

First … there is the sheer volume of work: significant number of tasks to accomplish and vast swathes of information to filter. Emails, phone calls, meetings, travel, conferences, presentations, reports, 24-hour connectivity; it’s not surprising if senior executives become exhausted.

Second … the pace of change and the levels of uncertainty surrounding business decisions have never been higher. Executives who are used to striving for specific, measurable goals may not be so great at handling the ambiguity and fluidity that rapidly changing situations can bring.

Third … where companies used to run on a simple top-down command and control basis, it is now widely recognised that the best businesses are those that harness creativity, innovation and entrepreneurship. The most effective leaders are those that participate in, encourage and manage collaborative teams.

Fourth … leaders and aspiring leaders play a crucial role in engagement. The Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development (CIPD) defines engagement as “feeling positive about your job, as well as being prepared to go the extra mile and do the best of your ability.”

Not surprisingly, engagement is linked to a wide range of positive outcomes. Two important drivers are for people to have opportunities to feed their views upwards and to feel well informed about what is happening in their organization. But a key driver of engagement is for people to think their leaders – especially their manager or line manager – is committed to the organization and cares about them.

Fifth … a major study by Watson Wyatt:Connecting Organisational Communication to Financial Performance found that “a significant improvement in communication effectiveness is associated with a 29.5 per cent increase in market value.” Once again, it’s the leader who needs to be communicating.

So, leaders face a greater work load; a more challenging, fluid and ambiguous business environment than ever before; are key drivers in employee engagement, and their effective communication skills and their ability to harness the creativity and entrepreneurship of their teams is essential if the business is to succeed. It’s not surprising that some leaders and aspiring leaders lose focus or wonder if they are doing a good job.

It’s not surprising that some leaders and aspiring leaders lose focus or wonder if they are doing a good job. In Development Dimensions International’s Global Leadership Forecast 2011 only 38% of the 12,423 senior executives participating in the study reported the level of leadership in their organization as ‘good’ or ‘excellent.’

However, the positive news for leaders and aspiring leaders is that help is available and that companies want to invest in supporting their leaders and aspiring leaders.

The Value of Executive Coaching

A DMB study in connection with the Human Capital Institute on emerging practices in executive coaching suggests that organizations are planning to increase their investment in supporting leaders and aspiring leaders in several key areas. Specifically, by helping capable executives reach higher performance, and in supporting high potential executives. Similarly, coaching is seen as having the greatest impact when it is used to groom high potential executives and help high potential executives achieve higher performance, rather then for remedial purposes.

For those respondents who measured the financial impact of coaching, 77% estimated the ROI on coaching to be at least equal to the investment. Some respondents reported the ROI on coaching to be as high as 500%. An earlier study by the International Professional Management Association found that training plus coaching was four times more effective than training alone.

It will pay dividends for any leader or aspiring leader who wants to fulfill their potential and deliver real benefit to their business to make a solid case for the value of executive coaching. While you are making the case for your organization to invest in executive coaching to support you in challenging times, here are a few hints and tips to keep you on track

  • Think about what is most important to you. Not what you do but how you behave. In a tough business environment staying true to your values will give you a guiding star on which to base decisions and choose priorities.
  • Leadership is about values and behaviour – not about having all the solutions. Establish end goals and empower your team to come up with solutions – this will open up far more opportunities and motivate your team.
  • Keep communicating. Explain your thinking and keep up an ongoing narrative with your team about the progress towards your goals. Remember any good story has ups and downs, so don’t be afraid to admit to adversity.
  • Be consistent. If you set up new initiatives or new ways of doing things – especially if they relate to communication or team empowerment – then keep them going. Show real leadership qualities and stay steady regardless of set-backs.
  • Be decisive. Far more damage is done to businesses by delaying decisions than by taking wrong decisions. If you find yourself unable to take a decision ask what additional information you need to make the decision. If that information is not available then staying true to your values will help make a decision.
  • Remember 80% is good enough. Whatever the task, if its 80% good enough, sign it off and move on. Striving for perfection, or taking on too many tasks because only you can do them well enough is a recipe for bottlenecks, frustration, stress and lack of achievement.
  • Flip negative to positive. When facing a set-back, make a conscious effort to look at the opportunities that a challenging situation presents you with, rather than just the problems. The results may surprise you.
  • Focus on your team rather than yourself. If you focus on supporting your people and enabling them to improve their performance in tough times, you will find you are more likely to reach overall goals and less likely run into self- absorption and lack of focus.
  • Be open to learning. Setting out to learn something new, to expand your knowledge or skills is life-enhancing, confidence-boosting and can have a positive effect on other aspects of your performance. Don’t close down in reaction to adversity; open up.

And finally I have no hesitation in repeating point 1 because it is so important …

  1. Think about what is most important to you. Not what you do but how you behave. In a tough business environment staying true to your values will give you a guiding star on which to base decisions and choose priorities.

Halina Jaroszewska is an Executive Coach, professionally certified by the International Coach Federation. Halina helps leaders and aspiring leaders to turn uncertainty into a powerful tool for change and growth. Her aim is to enable clients to take their success to the next level, switch surviving into thriving, and maximise their potential during challenging times

Filed Under: coaching, Communication, Emotional Intelligence, Growing your Business, leadership, Management, Mentoring, People Development, Personal Development, Training Tagged With: executive coaching, leadership training

06/04/2016 By Isla Baliszewska

Be a Great Mentor

Be a Great Mentor


Mentor We are all doing or have done some mentoring at some point in our lives – whether with our friends and family, or in a more formalised way through using our considerable experience of a particular sector to mentor a business owner, or colleagues at work.  For those who are mentors in a work or business environment, on a voluntary or paid basis, having an opportunity to embed and build real impactful mentoring skills through some professional development can have real value for those who you are helping through your mentoring support.

The Business Mentoring Fundamentals Course in Bristol on 20th April offers just such an opportunity for in-house professionals or anyone considering or already having experience of mentoring in businesses, for owners, management, teams and individuals.  Participative, interactive and enjoyable, sharing experiences and best practice, making new contacts and embedding real quality in your mentoring delivery, this is a day of great learnings that will help hone existing mentoring skills, develop new ones, build your mentoring brand and help you engage with those you are looking to support to grow and flourish.

Accredited with the IIC&M (International Institute of Coaching & Mentoring) the course provides the tools and groundwork from which to refine your mentoring and build your accreditation and professionalism..

accredited association of business mentors

www.associationofbusinessmentors.org

To Book click here  or call Isla on 07828 516058

Filed Under: Mentoring, Personal Development

23/03/2016 By Isla Baliszewska

Be the Best You Can Be

Be the Best You Can Be

Be the Best You Can Be
Isla Baliszewska with David Hemery at Marlborough Chamber of Commerce

I recently listened to David Hemery of 1968 gold medal Olympics fame and of 21st Century Legacy fame.   Last year he ran the London Marathon to raise money for 21st Century Legacy. For those not in the know 21st Century Legacy is behind the Be the Best You Can Be! programme in schools to unlock the valuable potential in each child.

David is an inspiring speaker, fundraiser, coach and do-er, and has worked assiduously with 21st Century Legacy to raise funds to ensure the charity can provide this great programme at minimum cost to schools.  He has been a coach and mentor for many years and engages eagerly with the discussions around the overlaps and distinctions between the different descriptors of “coaching, mentoring, advising, consulting”.

The ultimate aim of those of us who deliver coaching/mentoring/advising/consulting is to elicit the best from those we work with and enable them to elicit their own best.  David does this with schoolchildren and students giving them the opportunity to discover their own greatness on whatever scale and in whatever dimension.  I do it with grown-ups to help them enhance and develop possibilities and opportunities in and for themselves.  Neither of us, or anyone else in our profession, needs to worry about terminologies as long as we make sure those on the other side of the relationship understand that we are there to somehow make their lives change for the better. Be the Best YOU Can Be.  As David said, it isn’t about being the best of or better than everything and everyone, it is the best YOU.

Read more about 21st Century Legacy and get your local schools on-board.  Don’t let the kids miss out!

www.21stcenturylegacy.com

 

 

 

 

Filed Under: coaching, Mentoring, Mindset Tagged With: coaching, Mentoring, Mindset

  • « Previous Page
  • 1
  • …
  • 5
  • 6
  • 7

Contact Info

+44 (0)7788 425688
[email protected]

Smart Coaching & Training Ltd, Reg No 08362126

  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn
  • Substack
  • Twitter

Recent Featured Posts click on pic to see title and connect to article

They say it’s your birthday

How I discovered Meaning and Purpose

Social Media

We mostly post to David Rigby’s Linked In  and  Facebook

Instagram

My Intercultural Birthday https://www.smartcoachingtraining.com/they-say-its-your-birthday
Just the truth and said better than could and it needs saying over and over again
How I discovered Meaning and Purpose
How I discovered Meaning and Purpose

Facebook

Copyright © 2026 Smart Coaching & Training All Rights Reserved · Privacy Policy · Terms of Service · Privacy Settings