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05/02/2018 By Isla Baliszewska

5 Hot Tips for Overcoming Obstacles & your Inner Critic

It’s all about mindset

What you say when you talk to yourself [Shad Helmsetter’s best-selling book]

Why you give the imposter syndrome permission control your life

Whether you are prepared to act ‘as it’ – even ‘fake it till you make it’

How much you indulge your gremlins, those inner critics.

Susan Jeffers wrote a whole book on ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’.

FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real.

It is essentially about the choices we make. What if you choose to replace fear with another, stronger emotional driver; that of core confidence? Choosing to be controlled by your inner critic is very exhausting and destructive, as is the Imposter Syndrome. Experiment using Appreciative Inquiry’s approach, which is so simple and might need practice: appreciate what is working well and what could work even better – which circumvents anything negative.

Consider carefully when you say yes to your inner critic what it is that you are saying no to. And consider when you say no to your inner critic what is is that you are saying yes to. Ask yourself what is the pay off?

“I’d wake up in the morning before going off to a shoot and think, I can’t do this; I’m a fraud.” – Kate Winslet, Academy Award-winning actress

“I have written eleven books, but each time I think, ‘Uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.” – Maya Angelou, Pulitzer Prize-nominated poet and author

“I am always looking over my shoulder, wondering if I measure up.” – Sonia Sotomayor, first Hispanic U.S. Supreme Court Justice

What if, whenever an obstacle appears or arrives in your life, instead of getting despondent, being stopped, letting it get bigger and bigger, feeling it’s not fair or giving up you made different choices?

What if Google Translate interpreted ‘obstacle’ as a challenge to be solved? How might that approach influence your mindset? What inspired solutions might emerge?

5 Hot Tips (with thanks to Abraham)

1. Tell a better-feeling story about the things that are important to you.

2. Don’t write your story like a factual documentary, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience

3. Instead tell the uplifting, fanciful, magical story of the wonder of your own life

4. Watch what happens as you make different choices

It’ll feel like magic as your life begins to transform right before your eyes!

“Whatever you think you can you can and whatever you think you can’t you make that happen.” Henry Ford shone this spotlight on the power of your thinking to create your reality.

What will you choose?

Halina Jaroszewska Jan 2018

05/02/2018 By Isla Baliszewska

Careering from Career to Career

Recently, I met one of my clients, whom, two years ago, I encouraged to ‘swim in a different pool’ (according to her testimonial). She is very happy in her new role. She says, as a career coach I gave her the courage to change. But first she needed to decide what she wanted to do

How did she do it?
How would you do it?

For many people they get their first job by chance, by who they knew, by their qualifications or education subjects.

So career decisions are fixed when you start specialising at school. Some of us have the courage to change over the years. Or maybe every job move is based on doing the same thing, just getting more money or in a different place. This is how promotions shift people from doing to managing – many don’t like it but put up with it.

Read the full article

28/09/2017 By Isla Baliszewska

Get out of your own way

Ever bumped into yourself and thought ‘please can you just move out of my way?” Weird as this might sound, it may hide a powerful message. I’m not the first coach to think how cool it is to help people ‘get out of their own way’, it is a concept that has been around for a while but one which, very interestingly, people too often just don’t get.

In a nutshell, we can be surprisingly unintelligent about when it is ‘us’ that is the reason things are not going the way they should be. That applies both at work and in our personal lives.

In the business arena and trending at the moment is Michael O’Leary of Ryanair, once heard to say “I’m underpaid compared to Premiership footballers” and only this week being reported as blaming the cancellation of 40/50 flights per day and the shortage of pilots to a management mess-up. A charismatic leader, synonymous with a powerful brand that he built, Mr O’Leary could be held up as an example of ego leading to blindness in decision making.

As for affecting our personal lives, Indra Nooyi’s 7^th critical lesson for running a Fortune 50 company in the 21st century is ‘Leave your crown in the garage’. As CEO of Pepsico she is worth listening to; “No matter who we are, or what we do, nobody can take our place in our families.” Her point is about remembering the other roles we have in our lives, those in addition to the one where we think we are ‘It’. In those other roles we might be server, facilitator, supporter, carer and these are equally as important as being the boss.

Being good in any role, particularly where you are in charge, entails remaining grounded when you are being successful. Being the one in control necessitates a level of emotional intelligence that lets you keep clear judgment and make decisions with the knowledge that they impact positively on those on the receiving end.

This isn’t about dumping your ego. We all need our egos, they embody our will, our drive, our passion, our individuality. It’s important to acknowledge our successes and strengths. It’s equally important to notice those moments when your back patting becomes self-aggrandisement that threatens to make you think you’re infallible.

To ensure you wear the crown at the right times we offer these tips:

Know that you don’t always have to be right – inviting the views of others contributes to better informed decisions and may show you something different and better.

Surround yourself with people that are not always just like you – opposing viewpoints and perspectives lend strength and clear judgement.

Be aware of what your impact is downstream – who is affected by what you do, say and decide, and are they being affected the right way.

Be transparent and sharing – building silos and Chinese walls invariably results in getting someone’s back up and inviting suspicion and confrontation.

Listen, pause, and think about all the options. Only then are you in the right place to make the right decision.

You don’t always have to be a hero.

Isla Baliszewska

12/04/2017 By Isla Baliszewska

Seeing inside your business self with C-me Colour Profiling

Have you ever asked yourself “how can I build on my strengths? How can I make better decisions with greater confidence?” Or wish you had a deeper insight into your behaviours? Try C-me Colour Profiling!

Anita Jaynes of The Business Exchange, had first hand experience of how C-me Colour Profiling can give insights to behaviours and what might be changed to enhance performance and create better relationships.

Effective, efficient and easy to apply – quick to do and quick to get your personal report. What better way to discover your strengths and become more self-aware? And for businesses it is a boon! To be successful, business leaders need to be effective. They need to know what they do best, what they should get others to do, and how best to communicate objectives in a way that engages everyone in the organisation.

As a successful business leader herself, Anita was eager to explore how C-me could benefit her business, through doing her own profile and then taking it deeper in a Debrief session with Halina Jaroszewska, one of our C-me experts.

Read more about Anita’s C-me experience.

29/03/2017 By Isla Baliszewska

Breaking the Spell to Master your Mindset

Mastering your Mindset is within your reach!

Information comes into one’s life as a signpost. It’s all we need to design life as we want it. At first the signposts are subtle, very subtle in the pre-sent moment. If we ignore the signposts eventually we bring into being a life-changing event. It is essential that we get conscious and develop a practice to help turn us onto life, and to home in on the information from the Universe.

All it takes is 5 minutes each day in which to reflect and choose to see the gold versus the gloom.

Making the right decisions

When we decide to consciously take back control rather than allow others and events to control us it’s easy to break the spell. To be clear about what is important and to pause and breathe before making decisions helps us gain time and energy in which to make informed, appropriate, sustainable decisions.

By breaking the spell decisions can be

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It is important to let go of attachment to what might be. Viewing the situation based on present possibilities brings to the table a grounded, balanced approach. By breaking the spell we give ourselves permission to ‘turn back on’, thus enabling us to be 100% responsible and to take 100% responsibility for ourselves and our actions.

Top tip#1:

Every hour take a 2 minute break in which to invite your mind to quieten and refresh.

Mastering your mind is a certain challenge, a fascinating game to engage in, and tough on entrenched behaviours, patterns, beliefs. The question to ask in each and every situation is this: Who do I want to be in this moment? Mastering your mind is like bringing magnets back into alignment, having cogs engaging smoothly.

Creating new neural pathways is always challenging as we love keeping ourselves stuck with the familiar, the comfortable, the ‘taken-for-granteds’, the unquestioning ‘going-along-withs’. We can if we choose, learn new behaviours and create better situations. The choice is as always in our hands. Once we choose to get over ourselves anything is possible!

A helpful mantra:

Let new affirmations and behaviours pull me towards where I want to be. And where might that be, is the question?

Let the good stuff in – our brains release endorphins when we are relaxed and happy. In this state of bliss we are more likely to overcome challenges and transform situations to improve our lives. Treat yourself to indulging in savouring each day a handful of things you enjoy doing. As you do them let the good stuff in, as you both enjoy them in the moment as well as remember all the good things associated with that enjoyable thing.

Top secret: on the QT, very hush hush and strictly confidential…… is to enjoy the flow.

Notice that a hero or heroine tends to handle whatever turns up. Applying that principle, take the opportunity to transform in order that your dream can inch closer to your grasp.

Top Tip #2:

Withhold judgement.

Top Tip #3:

By definition different behaviour brings different outcomes.

Enjoy the journey. Transform difficulties into gold: Turn yourself onto the way life really is – use your power!

Halina Jaroszewska

5 Hot Tips for Overcoming Obstacles & your Inner Critic

It’s all about mindset

Careering from Career to Career

Get out of your own way

Seeing inside your business self with C-me Colour Profiling

Breaking the Spell to Master your Mindset

Mastering your Mindset is within your reach!

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